Why You Keep Going Back to What Hurts You... (The Science)

The Sabrina Zohar Show Season 4 Episode 53

Overview:
Why do you keep checking if they watched your story, waiting for your ex to text, or feeling bored the moment someone is actually good to you? In this science-heavy episode, Sabrina breaks down the neuroscience of attachment and repeating relationship patterns: why your brain gets hooked on hot and cold people like a slot machine, why healthy relationships can feel boring, why you can’t get over your ex, and why you self-sabotage the moment you get what you wanted.

Sabrina shares her own story of learning to receive secure love, plus what actually helps you break the cycle after a breakup, during no contact, or in a relationship where you keep having the same fight. You’ll also get a simple 90-second nervous system check-in to start catching your anxious attachment patterns before you act on them, so you can stop chasing the people who give you the least.

Genre : Talk

Actors : Sabrina Zohar

Release Date : 2026-10-16

Duration : 30 menit

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